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Riding the wave of our creation
Experiencing the joy of the ride, and recognizing when we are about to wipeout
Surfing is a wonderful analogy for living a life of higher consciousness… living from spirit! When we are in our creative flow, it feels like we are effortlessly riding a perfect wave. Things happen miraculously. Just like a surfer shifts their body weight to keep the board on the wave, we are taking the obvious actions towards our vision.
When we lose our balance, just like any surfer, we face a major wipeout. The goal is to make minor corrections along the way that allow us to remain on the board. Please remember: if we wipe out, it doesn’t mean anything about us as individuals or our ability to create, it just means that we need to get back on our proverbial board and try again. The goal is to identify why we lost our balance the time before and make some proactive course corrections before we fall off again. In the world of honoring our spirit, this simply means we proactively S.H.I.F.T.
So, what are some of the catalysts for our moments of imbalance? What takes us out of the creative flow and causes us to fall off the surfboard of our creation?
As creators, it is our job to connect with our end result each day. It’s a common thing in the world of professional sports. Swimmers envision being the first to outstretch their bodies and touch the opposite wall and runners see their last stride bringing them powerfully over the finish line. Even Colin and Christie, competitors on Season 31 of The Amazing Race, envisioned being the final team to reach the platform and winning one million dollars.
What do all these athletes have in common? They stay focused on the end-result. If we let go of the end result we are letting go of the creative tension that will support us in creating.
Resistance will always kick in. It tries to keep us safe by creating thoughts and feelings that pull us off our true vision. Often, we fool ourselves by thinking, “My vision isn’t true” or “Maybe it’s not really what I want”. This gives us a convenient excuse to stop aiming for what we love. Another trap we can fall into is thinking ‘I can no longer create this and we let go of the tension in the creation.
There’s a useful premise we can apply here– ‘true to start, true to finish’. This premise doesn’t mean that we should stick rigidly to a course and not allow ourselves to follow the golden thread as it evolves, but it will help us avoid the lies we often tell ourselves about our visions ‘not being true anymore’ or ‘not possible to create it now’.
Remember: our thoughts and feelings aren’t an accurate reflection of reality. To get an accurate reflection, we need to go back into our vision and get an insight from there. Stay in the vision even when you don’t think you can create it!
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Deadlines can increase the tension to create. However, more commonly we can create false deadlines that will push us right off our proverbial surfboard and right into our CAGE. As my friend and fellow coach Marc would ask me, “Can you hold that as a preference opposed to a necessity?”.
If we feel we must create something by a certain date, we expose ourselves to inevitable compromise. Creation has its own timeline. We will create when it’s the right time and when our vibration is aligned to what we want to create. Pushing the timeline can result in creating things that don’t serve our vision.
True timelines can create specificity that serves creative tension.
A great example is my book. I’ve had a choice to write a book for years. If I pushed it earlier (so I could ‘tick it off my list’), it would have been egoic. But now, the book is wanting to come into existence, and it has become true for me to complete a rough first draft by the end of the month. This true timeline is bolstering creative tension and allowing for insights to drop in.
When we compare ourselves to others, we are taking ourselves out of creative tension. We step out of our vision and immediately into an experience of failure. The only benchmark of success we need is where we are against our vision, and are we taking the next obvious steps? If the next obvious step is do nothing, then doing nothing is success!
The creative premises (if used incorrectly) can often be another tool in self-flagellation.
Does a lion self-flagellate after missing a gazelle on a hunt? Does she sulk behind a tree, have three quarters of a bottle of wine and call her ex for validation? Does she say, “I’ll never be as good as those other lions; therefore I am going to give up and starve”? No, she doesn’t. She shakes it off and goes for the next opportunity without carrying that failure with her. Humans are the only animal that don’t shake off a ‘mistake’ and get back to it.
Beating ourselves up can often follow a bout of Comparison-itus (when we insist on differentiating our failed efforts of the moment against others’ successful efforts), but there are numerous ways we can self-flagellate. In my experience, once we begin to live from spirit, we can be faced with yet another stick to beat ourselves with. We blame ourselves for having an identity, and a CAGE—and for being in it! The only purpose this serves is to keep us in our CAGE.
Think about a job interview. We may have an end result in mind for the role that we want, but somewhere throughout the interview process we lose sight of our true end result and get fixated on getting THAT job--relentless preparation, wondering how to get the employer to like us, and asking what it says about us if we don’t get the job will immediately throw you out of creative tension and into psychological tension.
Instead, let’s hold it lightly and choose only to get the job if it is in line with your true vision. The job isn’t the end result, rather, the vision of the role and the emotion you have when in it is the end result.
Our identity seeks orientation in the world. It wants to know ‘how we need to be in the world’ and ‘how we should do things’ so that it knows how to operate in the world to keep safe. Anytime we feel like we ‘need to know’, we are taking ourselves out of the creative flow. Needing to know puts us straight into our CAGEs. When we try to figure things out, we rely on our rational mind, which is guided by our CAGE’s perspective of the world. Trying to figure out the ‘how to get to our vision’ is the fastest way to stifle the flow of magic. Often, end results are created in ways that are vastly different from the way we thought it would happen.
Remember: you don’t know and you don’t need to know; if you needed to know, you would know.
An outside event is something that is seemingly outside of our control but can distract us from our path.
Health status and injuries can fall into this category. I have a client who will fall ill right before every vacation she has with her family. As a child, she broke a bone each time she was scheduled to visit her father in New York for the holidays. Regardless of the situation, there was an ailment that came to fruition right before any large event. Once, it’s an accident… twice to twenty-two times, it’s a pattern. This ties back to the premise that ‘structure has integrity’. If something happens over and over again there is an unconscious structure that’s creating that outcome.
Another client’s son fell ill right before she was scheduled for any big business trip. Was it that he didn’t want her to go? Was there a change she made through guilt for leaving? Whatever the case, there was as structure in place that created a scenario that was impeding the progress of her career, his development, and the sanctity of their relationship.
I’m not saying that we don’t need to take care of our medical conditions; there are medical conditions that should not be taken lightly and need to be taken care of. However, if we apply the premise that ‘everything that stops us from going for what we love is our resistance’ it can support us in not getting too distracted from our vision and that, in turn, can keep us in a higher vibration that can support our health and give us insight into what our bodies need.
I spent part of this weekend in the ladies’ toilet being bandaged up having had my car break down and then falling over and skinning my knees! I could have said, “Well, that’s it then, I’m not going to get to see my friends this weekend.” Instead, I saw it for the outside event that it was, and I stepped into my vision for the weekend and saw myself at my friends for the night, then going home the next day to spend more time with my man. So, I dealt with the car, got it towed, and had my friends pick me up. Some lovely ladies patched me up and my wonderful man drove five hours to pick me up. We ended up having a glorious time hanging out with my friends there and then—a weekend at home in the sun. Once I had decided to stay focused on my end result things magically came in to support me.
Often, we allow ourselves to be taken out of the creative structure with these seemingly random unlucky events, illness or injuries (that strike either us or others). If it happens a lot it’s wise to start to recognise how the event, illness or injury helped your egoic agenda in some way, or simply took you away from what you would love.
The simplest thing to do is to assume it’s just an outside event, deal with what you need to and then switch your focus back to your end result. Even with a broken-down car and a painful knee I created my highest end result for the weekend, time with friends and enjoying the sun with my man.
Staying on the wave of creation
Keeping in ‘flow’ doesn’t just happen. The work isn’t in ‘doing’, it involves staying in spirit. Just like any work out regime, dedication and practice is needed to see results. As anyone who lives from spirit will tell you, it takes ongoing practice and consciousness to live from this space.
It is okay to thank your CAGE for looking out for you, but you can tell it, “I may have needed your protection when I was a kid, but you don’t serve me today”.
Imagine letting all of those thoughts and feelings and then refocus back on your end result and operate from there.
Riding the wave is a choice we make every day. We need to choose to spot when we are falling off and we need to choose to get back on when we do. It can ‘feel’ hard because our resistance is trying to keep us from having what we love because that feels unsafe. In reality thought, it really is like a flick of a switch to get back into your flow. Simply notice that you are taking yourself out of the flow, acknowledge what’s going on and refocus on the vision.
Enjoy riding that wave and enjoy the wipeouts; it’s all part of being a powerful creator and knowing you’re choosing to create the life you love rather than safely standing on the shore and missing out on the full joy and experience of life.
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